Sunday, May 20, 2018

Happy Birthday

The Home Team: Pamula Daniel, Anil (Anibob), Susee (Chanty),
Victoriamma, Suha (Chelly) and Pastor M. Benjamin

On May 20, 1941 in Narendrapuram, Andhra Pradesh India—our beloved Susee Mable (Chanty) was born. May 20th was as blessed a day for her parents Pastor M. Benjamin and Victoriamma, as it was for Dad, Anil and me. Mum blessed us with her radiant light and unconditional love and remains, as ever, the centre of our family and world. What did we ever do to deserve her? I'm not sure but am so grateful to have loved her and been loved by her and to know that our love still endures.

Happy birthday darling Mummy. Love you forever.

Posted by: Suhasini

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Sangareddy 1972

Susee Mable (centre) with Anil (far left),
nephews, Rajini's sister and Sasikala

Whether it was her son or daughter, her patients, her nieces and nephews, babysitters or children in the community; my mother Susee Mable was a beacon of light and comfort to all. She was a mother and a safe space rolled in one. She was born with a maternal instinct and the ability to selflessly and unconditionally give her love, time and assistance without judgment.

The photograph above, taken in Sangareddy, India in 1972 is a classic in our collection of family photographs. It not only displays my mother's gentle and timeless beauty but the host of children who were always happy and safe in her presence. The two nephews pictured above, in fact begged my father to accompany him on the two hour bus journey into Sangareddy just to spend time with my mother. She was a wonderful aunt. She guarded her young relatives with her wings and showered them with affection. Mum even went out of her way to cook for (and feed) them with whatever dish their hearts desired.

My brother and I were inordinately fortunate to have her as our mother but so were the many children who came across her blessed path.

Posted by: Suhasini

Tuesday, April 24, 2018


"Thou art thy mother's glass and she in thee
Calls back the lovely April of her prime."
—Shakespeare (Sonnet III)

Posted by: Suhasini

Friday, April 13, 2018

In Memoriam

Susee Mable: May 20, 1941 - April 13, 2015

When Great Trees Fall

by Maya Angelou

"When great trees fall,
 rocks on distant hills shudder,

lions hunker down

in tall grasses,

and even elephants

lumber after safety.

When great trees fall

in forests,

small things recoil into silence,

their senses

eroded beyond fear.

When great souls die,

the air around us becomes

light, rare, sterile.

We breathe, briefly.
Our eyes, briefly,

see with

a hurtful clarity.

Our memory, suddenly sharpened,


gnaws on kind words


promised walks

never taken.

Great souls die
 our reality, bound to

them, takes leave of us.

Our souls,

dependent upon their


now shrink, wizened.

Our minds, formed

and informed by their


fall away.

We are not so much maddened

as reduced to the unutterable ignorance

of dark, cold


And when great souls die,

after a period peace blooms,

slowly and always
 irregularly. Spaces fill

with a kind of
 soothing electric vibration.

Our senses, restored, never

to be the same, whisper to us.
They existed. They existed.
We can be. Be and be
For they existed."

Posted by: Suhasini

Monday, April 02, 2018

Niagara Falls 1979

Suha, Ethel and Susee
(early 1979) at Niagara Falls

Posted by: Suhasini

Saturday, December 02, 2017

Histories – Chinapeta, Bhimavaram India – 1981

The Burden of Conscience

The driver got lost in a maze of streets that literally had no names. It was dark, almost 10pm, the power was out and the stars were as bright as I’d ever seen, as the rickshaw turned the last corner, the front gates of my grandparent’s house, just barely visible. I was two the last time I left those gates and seven years later, our first visit back, it seemed a world removed from all but visceral recognition. This was Chinapeta, Bhimavaram India, 1981. It might as well have been a rural hamlet a few hundred years earlier. Not much had changed. There was a canal that divided the unusually large street, which had dried up in the summer heat and was littered with paper debris. The air was heavy with the fragrance of sandalwood incense and crop excess firewood, which lingered resisting a strong evening breeze. Within days the monsoon season would begin.

There was a warm welcome of tears, laughter and voices raised in excited disbelief. My grandmother Veeramma Tanukala (Victoriamma), held my mother’s face in her hands, lovingly wiping away tears with the corner of her green paisley sari. My grandfather Pastor M. Benjamin, was busily assisting my father, hauling luggage into the house, preparing fresh linen, heating basins of water for warm baths, and lighting hurricane lamps; you couldn’t wipe the smile off his face if you tried. After freshening up, we sat outside in a circle in the front garden, on aged and severely painful dining chairs, feasting on curried smelts, pappu charu (dal rasam), and mango pickle. My grandmother’s hand directly inherited by my mother was unmistakable. The rich flavors accentuated by home brewed spices, made for a meal I will never forget—fine Andhra cuisine the way it was meant to be enjoyed—a history dating back hundreds of years, a tradition that my sister continues.

As a child, my grandparents seemed almost mythical, like hobbits in a far off land. My imagination was more accurate than I realized. Their house—the house my grandparents and my mother built with their own hands—was rustic to a fault, having much in common with a rural Welsh cottage from the late 1700s. The porch, was essentially a thin indented foyer mosaicked with framed photographs of family members, welcoming an open garden which my mother helped cultivate. The garden boasted two very tall coconut trees, various tropical plants, flowers and a variety of my grandmother’s favorite vegetables. The coconut trees were planted in honor of my mother, in gratitude for her hard work and financial assistance—my grandfather wrote about it at length in his letters, about the time and effort she put into assisting them settle into retirement. The garden extended right to the front gates, adjacent to a fresh water pump, which my grandparents designated as an open access point for usage by anyone in the neighborhood. The main entrance led into a sparsely furnished living room: so sparse in fact, it was furnished with only two wooden arm chairs, a heavy laden shelf with Seventh Day Adventist books and literature, a calendar with a fixed image of the Sacred Heart, and my grandfather’s desk: littered with stationery, pencils, pens, ink, ink pad, a personalized stamp (which my grandfather was particularly proud of), letters (both received and unfinished) and his will, securely filed.

When my grandparents and parents found themselves unencumbered for approximately one month, in the town where I was born: they finally had the opportunity to communicate some immediate and pressing concerns. In that time, a great deal of history was addressed, plans for the future were evaluated, and a sense of hope was derived after years of uncertainty. My parents had been considering a return to India (permanently) roughly estimating within the next five years. My grandparents, desired that we live side by side. My grandfather even drew up architectural drafts for my parent’s approval, which they happily accepted, and are proudly archived in the AFA. But, sadly, fate would not allow, as my grandfather, would suffer an “accidental fall” while “exiting a medical clinic” early in 1984 and succumbed within days to brain trauma. My grandmother too would shortly pass away joining her devoted husband, succumbing to blood poisoning from renal failure. In truth, she died of a broken heart, like many elderly, hurting and alone. In the years following, my mother lamented not being able to reach her in time, and ached for her. They were two peas in a pod.

However, in our moment of hope, that brief month, there was a profound feeling of satisfaction. It was the plan, to settle with my grandparents and live an idyllic and peaceful life in India. There is a great deal to be said about dreamers: dreams denote who you are, and for some, what you are willing to become.

During that month, within the tropical climate, and despite two weeks of non-stop monsoon rains, we trekked all around town, to the shops, the market, and theaters—which was a big deal for my grandparents, as they were strict Seventh Day Adventists and never ventured anywhere near the entertainment district. One evening after enjoying Hyderabadi Biryani and Chicken curry, in a popular restaurant, my grandmother, shyly but, gracefully ordered a cup of coffee, instructing a charmed waiter on how to prepare it to her liking. She sat smiling that smile, my mother said many times over was my inheritance. My grandfather, settled for tea instead, looking both dignified and nonplussed at the same time, with both hands on the handle of his umbrella. That umbrella, and his bible, accompanied him everywhere. He had a unique style, always wearing a pressed dress shirt (usually white), dark blazer and panchi. He, like my mother, was always in his element, in control, centered and highly observant. Nothing escaped his attention. He ate his meal, like he ate every meal, with a great sense of satisfaction, but never of indulgence. He was measured in his behavior, always under-reacting, but he was no push over, he spoke his mind when he felt he needed to.

After his death in 1984, we made a sombre return journey to India, my mother requested his bible, which is all she received by way of inheritance, not that more wasn’t allocated to her; it’s all she was permitted by those managing the estate. A year before his death he forwarded a copy of his will to my parents, and in this moment, they were well aware of what was happening. My grandfather was a man with a strong moral code. His bible was his coda. Within its pages, were his written instructions arranged and structured like musical notation, records, and histories, cross-referenced and catalogued, accessible if you knew the code, essentially, his elegy. My mother lived that code. His writings were filled with love, compassion as well as profound anger, regarding several matters. Which is why, the parties concerned, those who feared him, waited until his death, to leverage a paradigm shift, or at least an attempt at such a thing. It was the antithesis of who my grandfather was. The ability to identify that, to comprehend the implications and to move against the grain, were a part of my mother’s inheritance, and now are a part of mine.

During the pounding monsoon, my grandmother would often stand in the foyer, watching the rain. It fell so intensely, you couldn’t see the end of the garden wall, let alone the front of the street. Anyone coming up the path looked like a spindly dark shadow. I joined her, placed my arm around her shoulders, like I did with mom at home, and watched the rain. She enjoyed its ebb and flow, the voluminous hum, it soothed her, all except for the sudden appearance of frogs, which she detested. I peered closely at her weathered face, she was beautiful, a relic from another era, traces of a Lambadi heritage—in her youth before her marriage, she was a typical Hindu girl, decked out in traditional garb, with bindi, scarlet sari, earrings, nose rings, and bangles, on her wrists and ankles. Her face was now worn by age and grief. Losing her eldest son early in their family life, all but erased the possibility of the happiness found in a holistic completeness. I wiped some of the rain drops from her cheek and she smiled, the way mom did when I’d do the same for her. When I was a baby, my grandmother would carry me around the garden, cracking jokes and laughing. I vaguely remember glimpses of her sari, her face and that cheek, pressed up against mine.
Bhimavaram 1973

In the following days, when the rains finally subsided my grandfather took me to the market, half-way by rickshaw, half-way by foot. It was an adventure as it was nothing like being at home in a grocery store. This was an open air market, with everything you could want or imagine. We bought custard apples, jackfruit, mango jelly (not the spreadable type, but more like a thick fruit roll-up that was ridiculously delicious), tamarind candy (that tasted just like the Mexican version), fragrant coriander, curry leaves, red daal, and mutton. On the way home we took a different route, trekking right to the edge of the neighboring village. We went there to meet an old friend of the family, she was a stout, heavy set, middle aged woman, in a bright saffron sari, with a thin red border. She was with a large group of women selling their wares of cutlery, plates, cups, saucers and magnificently ornate pots. They exchanged pleasantries the way old war buddies do. She was his main supplier of Curry (chili) Powder and exceptionally talented in its creation. I observed their friendly discourse—my grandfather treated all people with considerable respect, as complete equals, men, women and children, which to this day is something that Indian patriarchy and caste racism has not been able to accomplish. He was a wholly unique man, both admired and resented and on occasion feared because he lived the truth and wasn’t afraid of saying it to your face.

When we arrived at home, there were parakeets lining the property walls. They were huddled together for protection. During the midday they’d arrive and cluster as if for a meeting, decked out in bright greens, yellows, pinks and blues. But at night, they were puffed up revealing only a greyish-green hue. By the morning they’d be long gone. I wondered where they went, maybe to dine somewhere by the train station. There was always food by the train station, except of course for the migrating homeless families, stowing away on heavy laden railcars, travelling from town to town looking for employment. My grandfather never ignored them as most people did, he went out of his way to help people, often quietly, respectfully addressing all as old friends. He was well known in the neighborhood, and was greeted with respect and trust. My grandmother too was extraordinarily welcoming to people seeking assistance. She accommodated travellers, sadhus and anyone in distress. She always prepared extra food every day, at great personal cost out of their personal budget, just to make sure that visitors were well fed, and comforted. I see the parallels between my mother and her parents. Mom was just like them to a tee. In a world with its fair share of impromptu genuflectors failing to practice what they preach, I found three examples here, who were the real thing. They didn’t need to preach, they led by example, they lived their credo, which was at the heart of it an ideology of compassion without condition—a basic humanist principle.

During that trip, as I’ve mentioned, a great deal of issues were discussed, with specific regard to inter-familial politics. These were difficult matters to negotiate emotionally as they opened up old and current wounds. Things had to be put right and my grandfather was bent on seeing it through. He was a man of profound integrity and carried with him the respect of those he presided. He had his detractors, however, most notably from opportunists adamant see him on the shelf. After his unexpected death, they did just that, manufacturing the courage to say (and do) things they would never have previously attempted, let alone, say to his face.

Regardless, a healthy understanding of the situation was established. My grandfather’s notes, letters and guidance have stood the test of time. The events he anticipated, occurred as expected, especially those that followed immediately after his passing. However, all of his eggs were not placed in one basket. Reading through his archives, I feel at times overwhelmed by his attention to detail and the complexity of various issues he disseminated, and sometimes eviscerated, the same way he would take apart a hen (for a chicken curry) in the backyard with his butcher knife. There was a cold calculus to it. I stood there at his side one afternoon, watching him sharpen that blade and wield it effortlessly—the chicken had no idea, it was alive one moment and dead the next, with no time to consider its next breath. He raised hens primarily for the eggs, and on the special occasion for family dinners. The rooster, a giant leghorn, made a racket every daybreak. One morning, I awoke to a razor’s edge of sunlight in the eastern sky, I turned over and went back to sleep, but not before seeing a small lizard crawling across the ceiling. By this time I was getting used to them—if only. I was just too tired to care.

The following days were relaxed, everything that needed to be discussed was discussed, no stone unturned. My grandfather put everything into writing, as if to provide an affidavit for future reference. The inner workings of the familial network now lay bare for consideration. And like a jigsaw, the pieces fit perfectly. I observed him intently in that time attempting to gauge him, if only to understand him better. There was that underlying sadness in him that was evident in my grandmother—a tremendous sense of restrained grief. Being a pastor, the burden of bearing a moral conscience was ever apparent in that grief. The application of that conscience in every aspect of life comes at a great cost, and can be profoundly unpopular and lonely. But, he persisted, rather they persisted. And succeeded. After we left he wrote that they had both wept for a week, as if afflicted with a death in the family. Every parting was a return to that grief. It was always there and they were both slowly dying from it.

At the train station with our luggage loaded, we stood on the platform, waiting for the last call—it was then that they broke, and the tears flowed. We all wept, a pain my nine year old self had never experienced before. My grandfather held my mother’s hand through the window of the train and told her that he was afraid he’d never see her again. My mother begged him not to say those words, but he persisted and offered some sage parental advice. There are some dreams that are not meant to be—but that doesn’t diminish the value behind the aspiration. The good conscience behind every endeavor make the measure of the dreamer. My grandparents and my mother were dreamers—a family within a family—at home in each other’s company. They lived, loved and are loved, and will be forever.

Posted by: Anil Anandaraju

Thursday, November 30, 2017


November 30, 1974

Posted by: Suhasini

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

"A Lovely Work of Art"

Susee Mable, age 18 (Andhra Pradesh, 1959) 
© Anandaraju Family Archives

 You're so like the lady with the mystic smile
Is it only 'cause you're lonely they have blamed you?
For that Mona Lisa strangeness in your smile?
—Mona Lisa by Jay Livingston, Ray Evans

(as performed by Nat King Cole one of my mother's favourite singers)

Posted by: Suhasini 


Pastor M. Benjamin, Victoriamma (Veeramma),
Susee Mable, Anil and Suha. Three generations of love.
Photos: © Anandaraju Family Archives
(Bhimavaram, 1973)

Posted by: Suhasini

Monday, August 14, 2017

Susee Mable in Jinnur

Susee Mable (right) with Mrs. Lazar
at Jinnur Maternity Centre (1971)
© Anandaraju Family Archives
Posted by: Suhasini

Wednesday, August 02, 2017

Forty-Six Years Ago

August 2, 1971
Lutheran Transfiguration Church
Bhimavaram, Andhra Pradesh, India
Signing Marriage Register
Signing Marriage Register
Photos: © Anandaraju Family Archives

See more pics here.

Posted by: Suhasini

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Happy Birthday Mom

Photos: © Anandaraju Family Archives

Happy Birthday darling Mummy. You were an absolute delight.
You're in our hearts forever. 💗

Posted by: Suhasini

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Happy Mother's Day

© Anandaraju Family Archives

"I miss you.
I miss your voice.
I miss your smile.
I miss your smell.
I miss your hug.
I miss your jokes.
I miss how you
made me feel.
I miss your

Posted by: Suhasini
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