In this entry, I shall be exploring the topic of fear. What is fear? Why does it come? How do you control it? As always this entry is based on my personal musings, experiences and research on the topic.
When a person is angry, sad, worrisome, or emotionally upset, it causes fear in their hearts. Fear creates destroying chemicals in our bodies, which affect our physical systems (such as the stomach, heart, blood pressure and circulation etc.). It can become a serious health situation. Just as love creates peace and happiness within you, fear in contrast creates health problems and more worries. If we let fear enter our system (through our mind) it will serve to put off the light of the soul.
How does one control the fear and how can one come out of it? Whenever a fearful thought comes to your mind, think about what you are doing to yourself and to your health. Health is very important. Realistically, tell yourself that the negative thoughts are detrimental to your well-being. And most importantly, try to realize that they are not real. Give yourself a moment and ask whether or not this thought is reasonable in any way. If not, ignore it. So replace negative thoughts with positive ones. If you believe that thoughts are just thoughts and have no real power over you, you feel self-assurance and trust instead of fear and worry. Most of all, believe in God and in his power, for He is always within you. Five sensory humans always keep fear in their hearts because they are alone in the physical world. They can’t see God within them. But the 6th sensory or multi-sensory people believe there is guidance within us.
According to Freud, there are three types of psychic natures:
1. The super ego (higher self)
2. Id: basic self
3. Ego: this is as you are in the normal and reasonable way our mind works.
The ego works constantly with the mind, to change our inner feelings about the world around us. We try to protect our inner feelings, with our own perceptions. These perceptions and thoughts depend on your fears, either they are real or imaginary ones.
There are imaginary or real fears and doubts can exist early in ones life. Such thoughts, make you put yourself down and for some people can haunt them throughout their life. All those fears, doubts, anger and negative thoughts can leave a person mired in anxiety. Some people need to get professional help to come out of this problem.
The realization that a problem of anxiety exists can be the starting point to a better-lived life. How do you know yourself? To know yourself well you must feel and understand your emotions with out overreacting. If you have made up your mind, and have the intention to make yourself comfortable and healthy, then you can certainly do it. When I make decisions, I try to make sure that my intentions are loving and best for me.
When you are aware of and know yourself: when you know how good and important you are then you feel stronger. If you know that you can and are over powering negative thoughts then there will be an absence of fear. The fear slowly disappears.
If you keep your mind and power with you, there is no compulsion and no struggle for external unnecessary power or even for unnecessary negative thoughts. The struggle for external power is due to the ego. The ego is your self-image but its not really you. This ego is playing with you. It wants to control you. Your true self is your soul and spirit. Your soul or your true nature is completely far from the nature of the ego.
How to make yourself peaceful from fears.
1. Take time to pray everyday.
2. Take time to relax and meditate everyday.
3. Practice non-judgmental way of living everyday.
Just as love creates friendship and peace within you, in contrast fear creates nervousness, palpitations, or sickness and enmity. When fear enters into one’s life that is really a starting point of self-destroying. It closes the light of the soul. When fearful thoughts and doubts come to your mind, think about how important your health is and positively talk to yourself. Realize that fearful thoughts are not always true. Is there any connection and concern for that fear? No, so negative thoughts are always destroyers. They are not real and not meaningful. Remember that and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. It takes time to practice but you slowly will begin to feel comfortable and slowly fear will disappear. Believe in God and remember that His power is always within you. If you want to live a good and happy life, you have to be loving and kind in your daily life’s situations. Stop worrying if something is going to happen, instead do the right thing and hope for the best.
Sometimes, your own friends or family members create something bad about you and tell others simply due to jealousy. What would you do? If your family members or friends reject you turn to your spiritual family. They will never neglect you instead they will take care of you. They will give you peace in your heart. The saying that blood is thicker than water may be true in a literal sense but remember that the Holy Spirit is not visible with your physical eyes but it is thicker and stronger than blood. We can always depend on our spiritual family. God’s guidance is always there for everyone who has faith in Him.
When you have fear in your heart, you naturally experience anxiety, when you have anxiety you cannot calm down and no peace exists within you. Such times call for meditation, which is a really good healer. It calms you down. It is a release of fears and pains and worries. Meditation quiets the mind, and opens your spiritual sight and gives you strength. Emotional healing comes through self-realization:
1. Deal with fears.
2. Reduce the anger.
3. Try to combat doubts with positive/constructive truths.
